![]() I have openly challenged his parenting decisions in the past. If I am honest, I can’t type away here pretending to never have undermined my husband’s parenting. And our son has had no adverse effects from the situation. While the issue started out unpleasantly, it ended with a stronger bond between daddy and son. If I had called him out in the heat of the moment, his strong-will would have taken over and there likely would not have been an apology. He was also ready to apologize for his behavior to our child – which is huge in parenting. My husband was calmer and more open to hearing what I needed to say. You see, while I was quite upset about what had transpired, I am so glad I waited until later to discuss the problem. ![]() And the opportunity for growth as a parent would be missed. He would have been embarrassed and humiliated. He would have shut down, refusing to discuss the situation in a productive manner. If I had confronted my husband in front of the kids and extended family that day, the door to confession and repentance likely would have been closed. When you undermine your spouse’s parenting, a whole host of problems can begin to develop, and it is a messy mothering method for sure! And while I still don’t agree with how he handled the situation (hey, we can’t all be perfect parents, right?), I am confident that I made the correct decision in biting my tongue and waiting to discuss the matter when we were alone instead of challenging him in the moment. ![]() More than 10 years have passed since that moment. Or I could bite my tongue and discuss it with him in private. I could either tell him exactly how his parenting strategy was wrong right there in front of the kids and extended family. The way my husband dealt with one of the kids left me upset and unhappy. I had a choice to make…and only moments in which to make the best decision for what just went down. See her bio below to find the link to her site and, then be sure to connect with her on social media as well. I’m excited to continue my “Spring Clean Your Marriage” Series with my next guest blogger, Aimee Imbeau.
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